TheWeb3Capsule#015 Self-Growth Comes From Destruction
Be accountable.
One of the best thing that could happen to you is to get rejected by the environment in which you grow/live.
From your lover to your best friends, close family members, your boss or even your colleagues . Any person close enough to lead to suffering, doubts and reconsiderations.
Why ?
Well, it’s simple, it creates an urge to change your current situation. You’re either responsible for that suffering or the environment on which you’re is toxic and the people that surrounds you should no longer be part of your life.
Iv’e figured our that everyone got two choices :
1/ You want full comfort and make sure you’re in an environment that accepts you the way you are.
2/ You question the state of your life and find what’s wrong with you.
Many refuse to accept this truth but I am sorry to break it we all got something wrong.
Some are harder to accept by society and will need immediate change.
The social consensus says NO to that character/behavior. This may hurt the feeling of some but it’s true.
Don’t jump unnecessarily on the I am the way I am I am.
That’s bullshit, as long as you live in a society you’re subjected to the consensus principle. If you want to create your own reality go live in a forest or become a monk at that point. At the end of the day you’re gonna be judge in regards to consensus + reality.
Are you a doctor ? You either study medical school for 10Y+ or you’re not. Well it’s the same for a lot of things.
You can’t identify as a doctor only because you decided to.
If you commit a crime that’s an agreed upon bad behaviour (I am talking about the rule not the 5% exceptions) that should be punished.
Be the first to figure out what’s wrong with you, don’t give that opportunity to others.
Once you figure it out, isolate yourself take the time to confront your inner child.
Be alone.
You need space, mental and physical to think straight. It’s not presumptuous but self-love and respect. Give yourself that opportunity to become better. There’s nothing worse than living a life untapping your full potential.
Recognize your value, work on it and set goals so goddamn high that everyone laughs at you when you state them outloud. Use this as a filter
Want an example to make this a bit more personal ?
At 18 Yo I said to many people around me that I was gonna be a millionaire before I am 25.
Wanna know how most of them reacted ? They laugh at me.
Why ?
Because we’re afraid of ambition, it reminds us how we may have decided to let go of dreams and goals. I didn’t and I never will.
However a few were supportive, they saw in my eyes that I was bloody serious when I said that. It was clear for me. From that moment onward I would not waste my time with unsupportive people.
Guess what happened ?
I keep supportive people very close to me. You’re already suffering from your own doubts, you don’t need other’s trauma and fear of endeavours impacting your decisions and journey.
That’s one of the reasons why I went from a high school super social person to a Uni-nerd.
You need to keep one thing in mind, supportive people need to be critical with you and not just blindly affirming your thoughts and ideas. If they do, you're just gonna run in circles and hit a wall.
Why fix ambitious goals ?
‘Sometimes it’s the journey that teaches you a lot about the destination’- Drake
I am citing a contemporain rapper but Nietzsche said something similar in a less conventional way that I rather not quote.
Everything in life is not about the goal you want to achieve but about the person you need to become along the way.
I am not yet a millionaire but I have learned so much in the past 4 years that everything so far was worth it.
Long nights working on myself.
All the party’s/social events to which I said no.
All the books I've read to get a glimpse of knowledge from the smartest people that lived.
All the money I invested in training and courses.
All the money I lost trying things.
Working on yourself will never be a waste of time. As long as you measure success with proper metrics.
1/ Remember, your goal is self growth.
2/ To achieve it you need to fix a big goal, one that frightens you.
3/ This goal needs to have some public failure potential. Make it official, that’s an amazing way to keep yourself motivated and consistent. Who likes being seen as a failure by everyone ? Use this trick to fuel yourself everyday.
4/ Don’t compare your journey to others. You’re the main character of your story, you mature differently, your scenario is not the same.
5/ Be patient.
Figure out a set of skills. Be honest about how far from mastery they’re. Structure a plan to improve on each. Give yourself a long enough timeframe to not be stressed but short enough to feel the urge to show up everyday.
And finally make sure you can track everything, data +journalling= key to success.
What can’t be measured can’t be tracked, can't be solved, can't be blamed.
Have an amazing Monday everyone !